王秀凤

Have your parents ever helped you with schoolwork or other projects？ Do you think they are giving you too much help？

Du Peng ， 18， from HeBei has a story to share. He said that while in middle school， his mother often signed him up for English speaking contests. To help her son win， Du’s mother once asked an English teacher to help write a speech draft.

“Although I got good results at the contest， I didn’t feel proud，” Du said.

Du is not alone. Nearly 90 percents of Chinese parents said that they have helped their kids too much in school， according to a recent survey of 1，504 parents done by China Youth Daily. Meanwhile， 70 percents of parents agreed that overparenting could lead to a loss of their children’s independence.

Children， on the other hand， want to do things by themselves. “ Doing things ourselves gives us a  strong sense of achievement，” said Liu Jiang ， 13 from Jilin. Eventually we will leave our parents. So it’s better to develop skills and live independently as early as possible.

Some， however think parents have good reasons to help.

Jiang Qi，12， is from Beijing. He said that his parents would sometimes help him by making PowerPoint presentations  and creating handmade works.

“ Our teachers have very high expectations for us.” Jiang said. “If my parents didn’t help me while other students still got help from their parents， I would be criticized for not doing as well as others. ”

“ If schools could set more reasonable criteria and stop unfair competition， the situation would be improved.” Jiang’s mother said.

生词模块

sign...up 给……报名参加;注册

overparenting 过度照顾孩子;过度养育

independence独立;自主

eventually 最终

achievement成就

presentation演示文稿

criteria标准;尺度

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我们的父母总是做得太多

你的父母曾经帮助过你做功课或其他事情吗？ 你认为他们给你的帮助多吗？

来自河北的18岁的杜鹏要分享一个故事。他说上中学时，他妈妈经常给他报名参加英语演讲比赛。为了帮助儿子获胜，杜妈妈曾经请一位英语老师帮忙写演讲稿。

杜说：“虽然我在比赛中取得了好成绩，但我并不感到自豪。”

不仅仅是杜一个人。根据《中国青年报》最近对1504名家长进行的一项调查显示，近90%的中国家长表示，他们在学校里帮助孩子太多了。同时，70%的父母一直認为过度照顾孩子会导致孩子失去独立性。

另一方面，孩子们想自己动手做事。来自吉林13岁的刘江说：“我们自己动手做事会有一种强烈的成就感。”最终我们要离开父母。所以最好尽可能早地培养技能，独立生活。

然而，有些人认为父母有很好的理由来帮助他们。

姜琦12岁，来自北京。他说，他的父母有时会帮助他制作PowerPoint演示文稿和手工作品。

“我们的老师对我们有很高的期望。”江说，“如果我的父母不帮助我，而其他同学仍然得到父母的帮助，我会受到批评，因为没有别人做得好。”

“如果学校能制订更合理的标准，停止不合理竞争，情况会得到改善。”姜的母亲说。