By Raymond Zhou

The challenge here,therefore,is to align (与……保持一致)yourself with your own unique path by learning individual lessons.This is one of the most difficult challenges you will be faced with in your lifetime,as sometimes your path will be completely different from others’.But,remember,don’t compare your path to the people around you and focus on the difference between their lessons and yours.You need to remember that you will only be faced with lessons that you are capable of learning and are specific to your own growth.

Our sense of fairness is the expectation of equality—the assumption that all things are equal and justice will always prevail.Life is not,in fact,fair,and you may indeed have a more difficult life path than others around you,deserved or not.Everyone’s circumstances are unique,and everyone needs to handle his or her own circumstances differently.If you want to move toward calm,you will be required to move out of the complaining phase of “it’s not fair”.Focusing on the unfairness of circumstances keeps you comparing yourself with others rather than appreciating your own special uniqueness.You miss out on learning your individual lessons by distracting yourself with feelings of bitterness and anger.