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Dear Ayi，

Should I spend 10，000 RMB on a designer bag？ All my friends have luxury items. They say a woman needs to learn to love herself. I work so hard， I totally deserve it.

Belle Bao

Time to 剁手（du7sh6u， “cut off hands，” stop spending）， you 敗家娘儿们 （b3iji` ni1ngrmen， spendthrift）！ May I suggest you learn to love yourself in a more 经济的 （j～ngj# de， economical） way？ Like my husband—he never got me anything. Do you think all those soulless hours spent at your 工位 （g4ngw-i， cubicle） can be made up for with one bag？ No way！ Next time you feel 压力 （y`l#， pressure） at work， do you blow your money on a pair of expensive 高跟鞋 （g`og8nxi9， high heels）？ When your 领导 （l@ngd2o， supervisor） scolds you for mistakes， you think the solution is to buy the newest 化妆品 （hu3zhu`ngp@n， cosmetics）？ Do yourself a favor and make some new friends. Join a book club， or take a cooking lesson. Who knows， you might find a nice guy to date—someone who shows his love by buying you a 10，000 RMB designer bag.

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