成功的理由多种多样，失败的原因也多种多样。一位白手起家的富翁给出了导致失败的几种习惯和行为：易于抱怨、淡于友情，以及疏于成功人士。

S top that habit if you wa-nt to improve your finances.Mu-ch of what separates wealthy people from average people is that mental-rich people simply think，act，and make choices differently from the rest of us.In“Secrets of the Millionaire Mind，” the author and selfmade millionaire T.Harv Eker points out a harmless daily habit that the rich refuse to is complaining.“Complaining is the worst possible thing you could do for your health or your wealth，” Eker writes.

“When you complain， you're focusing on what is wrong with your life—and what you focus on is likely to expand.” Eker explains.“Like attracts like，” the self-made millionaire writes， “When complaining， you are actually attracting‘nonsense’ into your life.” This leaves very little room for growth， particularly financial growth.

A fact often ignored is that your friendships and relationships could also have a major impact on your financial success.Steve Siebold，who interviewed over 1，200 rich people， found that the wealthy are careful when choosing their friends，and their choices have a lot to do their success and their worth.

Eker makes a similar point about negativity（n.消极）.Separating yourself from other complainers is just as important as turning a deaf ear to the urge to complain personally， he emphasizes:“Negative energy is infectious（adj. 有传染力的）.Plenty of people， however， love to hang out and listen to complainers.Why？ It's simple:They're waiting for their turn!”It's an easy cycle to fall into，but a costly one.If you're looking to grow your wealth， stop complaining.

Helping yourself out by surrounding yourself with a successful crowd.“Remind yourself that you are creating your life and that at every moment you will be attracting either success or crap into your life，” Eker advises. “It is important you choose your thoughts and words wisely!”