1. Life is fair.人生是公平的。

Happiness isnt about always getting what you want. Happy people understand that sometimes life doesnt go their way； life isnt fair. What they do know is that you can only do your best， forgive yourself for what doesnt work， and let go when you need to.

快乐并非总是來自得偿所愿。乐观的人懂得有时人生不会一帆风顺；它并不公平。他们深知，唯有全力以赴，且对失败释然于心，必要之时学会放手，才会幸福。

2. Suffering is bad.痛苦即不幸。

Suffering is an inevitable condition of humanity. You cannot survive this world without at least a little suffering. Happy people know a deeper happiness comes through surviving a deep pain. We learn what were truly made of when faced with such hurt.

苦难是人类不可避免的经历。若经不得一点，便难存于世。乐观的人懂得何为历艰弥幸。当遭遇那些创伤之时，我们就会看到最真的自己。

3. Im in control of things.我是主宰。

As hard as you work， and as much as you try to plan it all out， youre just not in control. You cannot control the actions or thoughts of others. In order to reach happiness， happy people accept this inevitable truth and learn to be proactive rather than reactive to lifes surprises and mishaps.

无论你多么努力，不管你怎样煞费苦心，你都不会成为主宰。你无法控制别人的行为或思想。为了活得快乐，乐观之人会接受这个既定的事实，并学着预见人生悲喜，而非消极对待。

4. Everyone hates me.人人都讨厌我。

This is a toxic belief and a delusion， yet sadly a great proportion of unhappy people fall prey to this， which is largely why they are unhappy. Happy people face the world with a healthy dose of curiosity and nonchalance. They are interested in others， yet not so dependent on being loved in a specific way. Making friends takes time. Thats all.

这简直就是邪念和妄想，但不幸有相当多的悲观人士落入圈套，这也是他们不快乐的罪魁祸首。在乐观人士的世界里，有适当的好奇，也有适当的漠不关心。他们对别人怀有兴趣，但又不太依恋特定方式的爱。交友需要时间，就这样。

5. People are obligated to love me in a specific way.

别人就应该好好爱我。

If your happiness is dependent on how other people feel about you， you will never be happy. You cant please everyone and you certainly cant force anyone to love you in a specific way. Happy people accept the way their loved ones feel， and work at showing their affection and asking for what they need rather than expecting people to love them the way they want to be loved.

如果你把快乐建立在别人对你的情感之上，你将永远不得幸福。你不能赢得所有人的欢心，当然也无法强迫任何人来如何爱你。乐观的人在乎所爱之人的感受，他们努力表达心中的爱和需求，而非期待别人用他们渴望的方式来爱自己。

6. I cant.我不行。

If you believe you are incapable and let that belief keep you from happiness， then ultimately you give truth to a self-imposed fallacy. The only way to improve and succeed at anything is to try and try again. Consider this： who is your idol？ Do you think he or she is so accomplished through a life void of failure？ No！ They simply do not let their doubts keep them from happiness.

如果你认为自己欠缺能力并让这个想法阻碍你的快乐，那么你终究会陷入妄自菲薄当中。万事取得进步和成功的唯一方法就是反复尝试。试想一下：你的偶像是谁？你认为他/她在整个人生中就毫无失败的遗憾么？不！他们只是没有让自我怀疑阻碍了幸福而已。

7. I have something to prove.我要证明自己。

Unhappy people seek happiness through approval. Unfortunately， that approval is impossible to achieve because it is caused by a inner lack， which keeps them constantly striving. Happiness can only be achieved through self-acceptance. Yours is the only approval you need.

悲观人士从赞扬中寻求快乐。不幸的是，由于内心空虛，那些赞扬并不能带来快乐，如此便造成了奋斗不止的局面。而快乐单从自我接纳中就可获得。你真正需要的赞扬出于自身。

Word Study

forgive /f??g?v/ v. 原谅；饶恕；宽恕

Ive tried to forgive him for what he said.

inevitable /?n?ev?t?bl/ adj. 不可避免的；无法规避的；必然（发生）的

toxic /?t?ks?k/ adj.有毒的；毒性的

curiosity /?kj??ri??s?ti/ n. 好奇心；求知欲

Your curiosity must be well satisfied if you have no more questions to ask.

approval /??pru：vl/ v. 赞许；嘉许；认可；通过

strive /stra?v/ v. 努力；奋斗；力争；力求

Strive for the best， prepare for the worst.