谁都会有忍不住想要发火的时候，这实在是再正常不过的事情了。当怒火来袭时，如果放任其肆意燃烧，你不仅可能会伤及无辜，甚至还有可能引“火”上身。何不学习一下在怒火腾起的第一时间果断将其制服的技巧呢？这样你就不会在发火之后又后悔万分啦。

There's nothing wrong with feeling furious！ But learning to control your inner Hulk1） can keep you from doing all sorts of stuff you'll regret.

Oh， you've been there： Your parents are insisting you come home by 10：00， when everyone else can stay out until midnight. You're angry， and who wouldn't be？ We all have days when we think we might explode right away. Everyone feels it！

That's because anger is 101 percent normal—in fact， it's rooted in the most primitive of survival mechanisms. When an animal is threatened by a vicious2） predator， it feels anger as a signal to fight to stay alive. But complex animals that we humans are， our highly evolved brains attach similar meaning to things that aren't life-threatening but trigger an equally intense response. Once those wires get crossed3）， the spiral is swift： You're ready to wrestle your best friend， for example， when a simple， "Hey man， not cool" would probably do the trick4）.

And while there's zero shame in getting mad—no one ever got into trouble for having angry thoughts—what you do about your rage5） makes all the difference. （Think about it： Scream at your parents？ Grounded6）. Eye-roll at your teacher？ Sent to detention7）.） So consider this your survival guide to making it through those moments when you're on the brink of totally Hulking out. If you can pause， understand where your anger is coming from， and know what to do with it， your relationships—and your whole life—will benefit.

感觉怒火中烧并没有什么错！但学会控制你内心的“绿巨人”能阻止你去做各种各样你将来会后悔的事情。

哦，你有过那样的经历：你的父母坚决要求你晚上10点以前回家，可其他人却都能在外面一直待到半夜12点。你很生气，谁会不生气呢？我们都有觉得自己可能马上就要爆发的时候，每个人都有这样的感觉！

这是因为愤怒是再正常不过的事情——事实上，愤怒根源于最原始的生存机制。当一只动物受到邪恶的捕食者的威胁时，它就会感到愤怒，这是它即将为活命而战的一个信号。但我们人类是复杂动物，我们高度进化的大脑将相似的意义附着在了没有对我们构成生命威胁但却触发了同样强烈反应的那些事情上。一旦发生误会，螺旋反应就会迅速产生。譬如，一句简单的“嘿，兄弟，这样可不好啊”就很可能会令你这样做——把自己最好的朋友摔倒在地上。

虽然发怒一点儿都不丢脸，没有人曾因心怀怒火就陷入麻烦，但你如何处理自己的愤怒会使结果大相径庭。（试想一下：朝父母大嚷大叫？你会被禁足。朝老师乱翻白眼？你会在课后被留校。）所以，你可以把这篇文章看成是你的生存指南，让你能顺利度过马上就要像“绿巨人”一样气呼呼地走出去的那些时刻。……